One of the most difficult aspects of parenting is managing the relationship between two people whom are both very different and have completely different beliefs and methods of living. This is a conflict that often arises between parents and their teenagers, who often appear to having completely different values to their parents. As parents strive to provide guidance and direction for their teenagers, trying to steer them in the right direction, much friction can occur. This can cause a disconnect between parents and their teenage children.
In order to bridge the gap between parents and teenagers, there are two main steps that must be taken. Firstly, parents must recognise that their teenage children may have individual, unique opinions, beliefs and values which may differ greatly to their own. Parents must be ready to accept that their teenagers may have a different outlook on life and may not necessarily agree or agree with them. Parents should seek to understand their teens by listening to their opinions, respecting their views and finding ways to be open-minded and accept those differences.
The second step parents must take is to create an environment in the home that allows honest conversations to occur where opinions can be shared and discussed openly. This means creating a safe, non-judgemental space that is free of criticism and judgement. Parents must also be aware that their teens may still be learning and developing as people and that strong discipline may not be necessary all of the time.
In some cases, professional help may be needed when parents and teenagers cannot reach a resolution on their own. Professional therapists are available to help parents and teenagers navigate the difficult issues they are facing and provide counselling services to create a constructive and positive environment for the family.
Of course, parents and teenagers will always feel better having healthy relationships when there is mutual understanding, respect, trust and appreciation of each other’s differences. Parents must be open to change and to understand that their teenagers may have independent thoughts, feelings and opinions. And vice versa, teenagers must not be afraid to express their views and can work together with their parents to find common ground and mutual understanding.
At the end of the day, no matter how different parents and teenagers may be, it is important that parents remember that the relationship between them is built on the foundation of love, respect and understanding. And above all else, the relationship should be based on communication and the willingness to tackle any issues that arise with sensitivity and care. Only by having open and honest conversations can parents and teenagers develop strong relationships with each other and ensure that their relationship remains strong over the years.
